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I have nothing but respect for him and he has respect for me. Do you want a liar? In so many respects, I feel lucky, blessed, though it hasn't always been easy. Eric Audras via Getty Images. How long have you been seeing this guy? Leave them there to be sad and miserable and move on and be fun and fabulous. We talked back and forth for a few days and set a day to meet and catch up over dinner.

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If he truly has split with his wife all but legally, it is a far different situation than one in which she believes the marriage to be happy and secure. The man's power he has over you. So it's supposed to be over. About a month ago I started dating a married man. You are headed for a life of abuse and misery if you don't dump him ASAP I know it will end in tears as he will never leave his wife for me.

We love helping people we like out of troubling situations. That one conversation in the office cubicle takes you all the way to the coffee shop, the snack bar, the restaurant, and the movie hall. All you start talking about is the good times both of you share every day. The real dark story unveils here. The little innocent doe in you in most cases braves itself up and walks curiously ahead.

You realize you love him too. You just want this man. Lost, angry, annoyed and on the dark side. Feel lost in life ]. You are a home wrecker. When I was involved with a married man, I felt terribly used. I was helplessly in love. And every time you ask him to walk out of his relationship, it would just lead to frustrated tears. You wake up feeling cheated, used and totally and miserably helpless.

Dating a married man is painful and demeaning. And at times, it can take years for you to accept the love of a genuine man you meet later in life. But all this is just the tip of the iceberg of problems when you have a relationship with married men. Click here to know how all this can make you a home wrecker and the other woman. Liked what you just read? I didn't believe him at first but day by day, he always cares and make me feel special that no one can do and i realized that i fell for him truly.

I'm trying not to bc I don't want to become a third person. But he's too amazing, he's wonderful I love him more and more even i'm trying not to. Please let me know how to cut him out of my life. I don't want to become a home-wrecker. I've been seeing a man now who has been married for 20 years. His wife knows but doesn't want to leave. He has 2 kids and we still have to sneak around. Everyone knows, it's the elephant in the room. I needed such an article which is motivating and non judgmental.

Been dating a man for 6months now and he swears that he is not sleeping with his wife at all,that they are only raising their 9Year old daughter till she is of age to handle the situation but i just dont belive that he loves me. My instincs just sense that he is playing me for a fool which is almost true.

I just needed a smater way to handle him because in all honesty,i love him so much and though i am ashamed of myself,I am not quitting yet. Just remember if he cheats on his wife, what makes you think he will be loyal to you?

Some men like to play the cheating game with a girl or two Thank you so much for this post. I had suspicion of the man I fell in love with seeing other women as well when I got in his truck and his passenger seat was laying down one time. This article helps me see clearer and more rational to the emotional abuse marriedmen can really put on women. Thank you for this article! I know what I need to do for myself now.

He is definately playing with your feelings. Why would he go for his anniversary for weekend getaway if he wanted to be in touch with you? Tell him that if he really wants to be with you to give you his divorce certificate otherwise to leave you alone. It's hard to deal with this but will save you pain in the long run.

Been with a married man for a year I feel like a butt of a joke. I end it but he calls me or texts me telling me how much he needs me. And its something i love seeing. But i think i know he does it on purpose Theyve been together for ever. They just had a weekend get away for their anniversary and he messaged me every day they were away. And he met me the next day after they had come back. I felt a connection from him since day one. How can i walk away and keep it that way. He seriously is crushing my heart.

Better you move on with your life. I have been in the same situation and been hanging there for years. He told me same Still hasn't and kids are 18 up. Wants another 5 years. In the beginning of dating we didn't have sex too and he kept giving me hopes for the future and was saying he isn't intimate with the wife and they sleep separately Shouts at me every now and then. And am so stuck to get out this rut. My advise leave it Don't fall in love with him.

About a month ago I started dating a married man. When we first started talking I thought he was divorced. I knew immediately at our first date that he was a man of honesty and integrity. He has two 15 year old daughters who are on the low spectrum of autism. After our second date he told me that because of all the care that his daughters need he and his wife have not divorced. I ended our dating relationship immediately but continued to talk to him as a friend.

Both of our feeling kept growing so I started dating him again but I have not had sex with him. He has told me that he and his wife had not had sex for 3 years and that they are just roommates, separate bedrooms.

I have told him the problem that I have dating someone who is married whatever the reason. I told him that I am looking for a partner in life not someone to just have fun with. He agreed but his plan was to get divorced when the girls turn 18 because they would get disability that would help take care of them and he would not feel like he is abandoning them. I told him I would never wait that long. Here is the plan that we have come up with. We are going to date and then if things get serious he is going to tell his wire and come up with a plan to get a divorce but still take care of his girls.

I am not sure if I should continue to date? I can only say that he is everything that I am looking for except that he is married due to circumstances. We have had a lot of communication about what my needs are and what I am expecting moving forward and he had agreed to meet my needs and expectations. I have a doozy, I'll try to keep this short. My boyfriend is married, we've been together for almost 7 months.

Yes, my boyfriend is not only married, but he's also my boss. We also go to the same CrossFit gym and are workout partners from time to time that's how we reconnected, he tried to hire me a few times. And, we also run together 4x per week. We have a lot of little bits of togetherness everyday. When we started our affair, we talked and asked each other the question "do you really want to do this?

He said to me "I'm not getting a divorce. And you're not going to hold yourself back for me. I knew how this relationship was going to go. Fast forward 7 months - we are in love with each other, love being with each other and he's now getting a divorce. This changed the deal. We were not supposed to fall inlove with each other.

He was not going to get a divorce. Ugh, I don't know what to do - to breakup or not breakup? One one hand, I want to stay by his side, be there when he needs me, his best friend, through this tough time. I feel like I would be abandoning him during this difficult time. I know he's very busy at work and has more than enough. But at the same time, I don't ask for a whole lot and making some time for me, say one hour a week of quality face to face time a week isn't much.

He's told me to give this divorce and us time and asked that I be patient. He does realize that if I were to meet someone, I have every right to go out on a date with someone else that too was part of the deal - I don't hold myself back for him. I want to stay, but then again I don't. This is absolute torture. I'm also afraid as to how our relationship ends. We agreed "we are friends no matter what happens.

At least not for me, that's my luck. So, I also struggle with - should I continue to delay the inevitable or grab my ovaries of steel and end the relationship now while we are ahead we've not been caught, no one suspects our affair, etc. I had an awful experience with a married man. Dated him for 6 years. He kept saying he wants to leave his wife.

First he said he will leave her in 5 years once his kids go to Uni. Last year he said he wants to leave after another 5 years. Now he is saying he doesn't know. Then he says "one day" he will. His kids are in uni and still hasnt.

He takes his wife and family on holidays at least times in a year. He says he is not intimate with her. We are hardly having sex, meet may be once a week for 20 mins or so and don't talk much on the phone now. He made me reduce all this by shouting at me that he has other things to do. The pain comes when he dumps every time he goes on a holiday and abruptly say "goodbye" without any explanations. When he is back he apologises and we continue.

Last 2 years I have been clinging on to this relationship with a fear of being lonely and not finding love. I get jealous of his wife and convince him to spend time with me. I keep getting sucked in this relationship and find it hard to leave I know there is no future to this.

Counselling has not helped me. Part of me wants to move on and find someone else. The other part of me is accepting emotional abuse from him with a hope that he will be with me. You just got a new job - and with this situation I sincerely believe you should leave your job - get away from the situation as soon as possible - find a different job.

It's not that you've been in this job for a long time so it's not hard to leave. Your boss married for 10 and now there is a baby involve too. Please leave him and his family alone. I know it's hard but it NOT impossible. I do it myself. I never have sex with the married guy but I cut off the relationship - and time will heal all sorrow - also you left him it makes you a strong woman and you do the right thing for leaving the job and leaving a married man for everyone's including yourself sake.

You can do it. I beg to disagree. The best 'cure' for a man is to build up your self-esteem to a point where you're not seeking validation from a lying cheat. To have a rich, fulfilling life and the resources to make wise decisions about who you hop into bed with I am a married woman, I have been with my husband for 30 years married I recently reconnected with a guy that I was with in HS.

I have been in love with this man all these years even though we went on with our lives, married and had children with our spouses. We reconnected over FB messenger. Come to find out after talking with him he has felt the same way about me all these years he mentioned it first. We have met once and it was really nice to see him, we talk and text daily and are planning another meeting soon no sex.

There has been talk about the future and we both agree that it is not in either of our best interest to leave our spouses. I know it's wrong but being around him brings out something I haven't felt in years. Other posts mentioned being jealous of his wife, I can say I am not jealous of her or the life they have together. We have a friendship that will last a lifetime albeit one that our spouses do not know about. I know a typical nice caucasian woman felt for a Muslim guy - they have 3 sons together - he used her to get citizenship and left her and 3 boys when they are still very small and went back to his first wife Muslim wife This woman died of cancer couple years ago and these 3 boys grew up kind of violent and wild.

This is a true story. Do not divorce your husband just to be used my a Muslim man. In America you are not lower than a man, which means that you don't share a husband with several other women. You are headed for a life of abuse and misery if you don't dump him ASAP Even then, be careful. Muslims are known to disfigured women who they cannot control. I have personally witnessed some horrific things. These men are just not worth any of your time The goal of most cheaters is to hold onto all that is "good" in their primary relationship while addressing their other "needs" on the side.

The majority of cheaters have no desire to replace one relationship with another. Essentially they're looking to "compliment" what they already have. So you should know you are his secondary relationship.

So basically you are his mistress and that's all you will ever be. Should you deserve to be in a primary relationship with someone who truthfully love you? His love is not truthfully because he is selfish and just use you and cheat on his wife and lie to both of you. I suggest for you to get out. Lyric - if you are married to a man - he is your husband and some other woman sleep with him weekly and share some of the money with that woman. Is that ok with you?

Ok so I have been with a married man for 2 years. He told me he was married from the beginning but they had problems. He was my first boyfriend and the first person I ever fell in love with. In the beginning when I needed it he did help me financially but I don't need his help anymore. I don't really want him to divorce his wife at this point but I still want to see him. There are times that I feel a little.. The question is do I still hang out or is this so unhealthy Im not seeing that it is.

Change the genders on this. Would these rules apply to a man? Deeply in love with a married women. I am glad that you have decided to make a big change with your situation. However, instead of leaving him with hatred and anger. You should feel it with compassion. I suggest to think of it as a hard lesson learn. With compassion and understanding you are not either hate him or agree with his action.

If he cheated with you he will or may do it again with another woman. He is a cheater, he likes the thrill even though, it's just wrong. However, that's NOT important anymore at least with you. It will help you to change yourself from inside out. So I wish you live happily with yourself and your heart will fill with love, compassion, understanding and wisdom. Also once you become a strong, happy, loving person, people will naturally want to be around you, want to be part of your life.

You don't want to be someone who fills with hatred and revenge because that would be bad for the next guy right? I can't believe the change in me and it's definitely because I've learnt to love myself.

If they don't choose you then choose not to choose them back. Many many self help books later, many smashed glasses in temper, many wet pillows later I finally couldn't care less and what a relief. If he returns again I won't be responding not that he can find me now anyway unless he turns up at my work place but I've made it clear im off this rusty old rollercoaster.

I don't want it.. Oh and the nice guy who is available and wants to date me I may just give him a chance now. I beg you to move on.. It's empowering and they will miss us in the end a hell of a lot more than we will miss them. Yeah he can find a replacement will she be as great as me? Nope it's defo his loss. Don't mean to sound arrogant but you have to believe in yourself, it helps and it helps so much to finally be angry at these men. They are staying in their unhappy marriages..

Leave them there to be sad and miserable and move on and be fun and fabulous. Then who's loss is it?? It sucks too much energy from you and us women get to a point where we are exhausted with it. I got to that point. I'm begging you ladies run away far far away and never look back X. Good for you - 13 years is a long time but rather late than never - you should know by now - ONLY you and YOU ONLY can make this happen - you put yourself first let yourself free - Have fun with your dog - I am very sure the dog will always welcome you home no mater what day it is or what mood you are in.

Have fun and wish you the best. We hold the power We are not 'trapped' with these men. On off on off for 13 years. I've done it last week.. And it feels good. Took me a longggg time to get here but I'm never going back now. Get out get out get out.. It's not worth the pain and hurt.. It will take time I know but I'm determined plus this is the first time I've ever rejected him. My cookie factory is now closed down!!!

I feel so free. I have my opinion base on my own current situation and on your post - The first 3 to 6 months or a year is the most powerful and strongest period of attraction and connection between you two. The man's power he has over you. So if you can recover yourself or keep your balance during this period of time which means you don't have intimacy or getting addictive to the feeling of being closed to him.

However, your current situation is he also have a wife. She is definitely has more leverage over you. He loves her so much enough to marry her. And Yes, I believe he also love you too very much. You're young, attractive, available and single - so many nice features about you - what is not to love and being loved right?. He can have both women at the same time YES. The point here is - will you accept that kind of relationship?

OR you want him all to yourself? OR you can't have him at all. You must have the power to decide to get over the addiction of him, because I don't think he will leave his wife for you. No you can't be friend not if you in love.

I know it's like honey on the knife. You like the sweet of honey but you can get cut by the knife. So final advice is to challenge him by leave him for as long as it takes and time will answer if he pick you or his wife.

I wish you luck and you have to be strong. I have been dating a married man for about a year now. When I first met him, he told me he was divorced. It took about 9 months for me to eventually admit to myself that he is married. I knew all along,I just wanted to believe him. I spent money on getting a background check and ended up getting links to his wife's Facebook page. When I confronted him he told me that when we initially met, they were separated and that she moved back in 3 months prior to me finding out.

I eventually fell in love with him during that time period. I know that he does love me because I have been in love before.

He tells me that his attraction to me is the understanding we have and that his attraction to his wife is based on the fact that she is a good person. They do not have any children together. I never once thought I would be in this kind of situation but I do not know what to do.

He was the first and only person I have been with since my ex passed away. He does a lot for me, more than anyone else has, he looks out for me, and makes sure I'm fed and school work is done. He is much older than me but I can not help how I feel about him. I have tried dating and it did not work.

I still find myself with him at the end of the day. From what your telling us. I understand that this boyfriend of yours has too much power over you.

He lied to you that he divorced - he refused to sign divorced paper. He has 4 other kids with 4 other women. He is a cheater, a liar.

He used women because the women like you let him too. You need to stay away from him as far as possible. If you have to move far away to a different state and start over again with your life. Don't waste your time much longer. You let him totally control your life. You depend too much on him. You sacrificed too much for him and forget about what is really important in your own life. It's time to set your priority. Is it him or you and your daughter? I think you have to find answer within yourself.

You need to take care of yourself, instead of concerning if he is divorce, if he really loves you, if he is the one for you. Looks to me he's NOT the one for you. You deserve better - you need to love yourself first by being independent and take control of your life. I've been with my married boyfriend for 6 years!! He is 15 years my senior and he is still married!!! Him and hi wife been married over 15 years and I can't continue on waiting for him to divorce her. He is about to become a Licensed Plumber which i helped him along the way.

In the process of doing that I have sacrificed a lot to keep him happy. He told me he was divorced when I first meet him. His wife was a actually the one who told me in they were still married. When I found out I was mad but gave him time to divorce her! Still nothing, he keeps getting letters from her lawyer and he still refuses to sign them!!!!

I lost my health care career taking a charge for him!! I have a felony record which is so difficult for me to start my nursing career! I love him so much plus he has 4 other kids with 4 other women plus I have his 2 year old daughter we had together!!! I met and love all his kids. They love me also but I can't go on another 7 years with a married man.

She will get all his pension and benefits even tho he lives with me. He gets so defensive when I tell him you divorce her. I think he is using me or have some agreement with his wife so they don't divorce.

I've been with this man for 10yrs. He still marry but we live together and he tell me he doesnt get a divorce but she'll take him for alimony what do i do. Thank you for the article. Thank you for all of your input about this topic. I would not read this article if I was not in the situation. I have a boyfriend who I've dated for close to 16 years - we live in a separate house, we have up and down but we are a happy couple.

He's loyal and faithful to me and me too to him I know that. However, there is a twist when a married guy at work I was hanging out with at first I thought he is just a friend but then over time I felt in love.

He also said he felt in love with me. There is a strong attraction, connection and a lot of fun when we hang out. I was smart enough to NOT ever hold hand or kiss or think about further than that.

However, I knew if we continue hang out it may lead to that. He said he will cross the line - he told me he cheated on his wife once a long time ago. After hang out with him and try to understand about married cheating man - I know I am playing with fired but I always backed away when I know I am in the danger zone.

Believe me it's a very strong force between a man and a woman when it comes to attraction. I am the one that decided to distance myself with him for over a month now - I plan to keep a distance a long as possible and I have no intend to hang out with him in the future.

I can't be friends, we can't be lovers, but we are not enemy either. We work in the same building so I saw him from a distance sometimes, but that's it! I am a young woman who has been seeing a married man. He is much older than me, and very charming. We started chatting online, then by phone. We have talked and sext numerous times. He told me he was married and has been honest with me. He says his marriage has been going downhill, and so has their sex life, he is unhappy and he wants a divorce but they have kids.

I know its wrong and I respect marriage but I can't seem to distance myself from him. I have tried to end this, but he says he wants me. He insist we continue on. We have not had sex, although we tried to on many occasions, but I always backed out. We both yearn for one another, which I know is bad. He insist we have oral sex, if not penetration, to ease our desire. We have yet to.

I feel for his wife, but I also feel for him. I have become emotionally attached and I am confused. I know I should end this for good, before it gets out of hand but I can't seem to! Finding myself divorced after having been married for fifteen years, the last thing I wanted was to be in a serious relationship.

Dating married men allowed me to avoid commitment and avoid all the snares of falling in love. I was clever, or so I thought. I have been divorced seven years. Three and half years ago I met a man in a loveless marriage in who lived 3, miles from his wife for over five years. There has been some twists and turns in his marriage. I have maintained that this was a causal relationship, there are 1, miles between us due to our careers.

I went into this with my eyes open. I knew that he would feel obligated to put her first, for the simple reason she is still his wife. I did not put my life on hold and I had a life of my own, just as he has had a life of his own.

I have continued to date other men. Then about five months ago he told me, he had feelings for me. It was hard for me to come to terms with the fact we had fallen in love.

That was exactly what I was trying to prevent by dating him. I am a successful, independent single professional with strong values.

I am over 50 years old. The question I am asking myself is: How in the hell did this happen? How could I have been so naive?

Even though I have a separate life, I date, I have supportive friends, I am happy I want to be with him. I know the deal, but that does not prevent the heartache. If I had to do it all over, I would walk away as soon as he told me he was married, which was the third sentence out of his mouth.

Thank you for your article. Sometimes, morality does not prevent us from making unwise decisions, women often have to experience the pain. It is my hope that my story and your article will help women make a wise decision and leave the married me alone. I met a man a couple months ago online, we haven't actually met in person as he lives in another state from me. It was an online chat group for a game. I always noticed him when he chatted but i never pm him or directed any comments to him.

Then after a couple weeks things were getting a little serious and we were talking about meeting for the first time, he would fly me out or come to visit. I am more then finacially stable and wouldnt let him pay for me becuase i didnt want to have any strings attached.

The first two I have before and doesn't matter to me but the last I was somewhat crushed, he is 10 years older then me and not heavy set, I already knew because his profile pic and pics we shared, he said he had to tell me cause he started having feelings for me and he liked the attention he got from me and didn't want to lose the feeling and lose me. Now I'm sure your thinking that only after a few weeks how can we make such a connection but we did and I was starting to have feelings for him as well, we have so much in common and almost type exactly what each is saying at the very same time, sometimes it's creepy but true.

Like he knows what I'm thinking at the very moment or vice versa, like we will both be saying the exact same thing and hit enter at the same time to send message. This is instant chat btw. He told me that he was married for 17 years but they are a product of an arranged marriage and they have 2 children but are just friends, more like roommates, they have had sex only once or twice a month if even that. They pretty much live separate lives apart from their home life with their kids.

That he now sees that there is so much more to life and love. At the time I knew he had kids because he had talked about them but not his wife, he said he did but don't remember seeing it, it's possible that he did as there is usually over or more messages a day.

He said he would stop chatting with me and I agreed but we still talked about the game and sometimes normal things and I took a step back but something about him kept me wanting more, I told him I couldn't be the other woman or be a homewrecker and he said that how could I break something that was already broken My previous relationship engaged ended due to my ex cheating on me.

He decided he was going through with the divorce and talked with his wife about it and they agreed and would start the process but they had a family vacation set a week later which they decided to follow through. I admit he convinced me and we continue to talk but that's all just talk about our feelings for each other and wanting to be together, he has told me that he won't go into the details with me as he doesn't want me to hurt from it and I agreed that I didn't want to know.

We chatted daily but I only let it happen once a day, I didn't want to take his time away from his kids and their time together.

He said his son is struggling with it a little bit and his wife has made some rude comments so he expects there to be drama soon. I have been finding myself jealous this whole time. I'm so confused what should I do? We have talked about moving in together and getting a house, I'll move to where he lives because honestly I don't care where I live and can relocate anywhere.

He has his businesses and kids there. Anyway I don't want to be the cause of the family break up even though he says it's bound to happen anyway, but if it was why wait until I come along? Because he says he never intended or was looking for meeting someone that he will make the change in his life for. Should I break it off completely until after the divorce i know this can take months or a year or still keep the line of communication open and keep it only on a friendly level?

Do I say screw it I'm going to hell anyway and just go for it and be damned? I feel like I'm being too moral? But in today's age there is no monogamy anymore, it's hey let's get married and if we divorce so be it, we can find someone else.

He says he feels the same way, he wants monogamy but he wants it with some he loves and wants to spend the rest of his life with not with someone who was chosen for him.

Or should I just leave and forget about him. I did find his social media but couldn't bring myself to look. I've been dating a married man for a year, after been working with him for 5 years. Yes, he's my direct boss too. I know it's hard and no future.. He's such a nice and kind, been helping me a lot at work and push me for promotions and salary increment for many times, even before we started dating. In fact, he gave me the sign since first year we worked together and a few time after that, but I chose to ignore as I was with my ex-husband that time.

We started dating two years after I divorced. For a year we've been dating, we of course have to keep this secret for the two of us, we both are high-executive level at work. No cash support even thought he always said he gonna help me on my bills but, I've never ask for I'm really in love with the guy as the love of my life. He's the one I try to draw for the whole life. However, I want to end it!

No matter how much I'm in love and care about him. I always struggling when he has to spend time with his wife and kid. I hate the feeling of being left behind and to be alone. I know it will end in tears as he will never leave his wife for me. Even he once said he want to have a thing to bind us for forever. I don't want to be his last resources anymore but, he's my direct boss and I don't want to sacrifice my career for this.

I'm not in the age to start building credit at work again. If you decide to get involved, I would say to get something, prferably a lot, out of him first.

Many men will take and run. Je obviously liking the challenge of the chase is the personality that can be immediately bored after the conquer. I'm glad I came across your article about dating married men, because I am considerding dating a wealthy married man.

He's been trying to get me to see for several months. Trying to discourage him I told him a single woman only dates a wealthy married man for one reason. He said he was fine with that. He is aggressive in pursuing me and told me in the beginning when he really wants something he doesn't stop until he gets it.

I have a young child I'm in a bind financially and I could really use the extra help and he knows that's the only reason I'd be getting involved with him. He's very attractive, sweet, funny, very confident, takes charge and so on. I'm the one that brings up sex, because a married man only gets involved with a single woman for one reason.

I'm not gullible and I know there's no future with man and he will won't divorce his wife even though their kids are grown, but like most men he doesn't want to share his success. He has said he does not expect sex but it would a bonus, he says he just wants someone to travel with, hang out and have fun.

I'm not looking for a relationship or spend a lot of time with someone, so he would actually be convienent for me as far as time and financially. There's two things stopping me He told me I worry to much and I just need to let him take care of me.

So, what do you think??? Im seeing a man who told me from the beginning that he was married and he was getting a divorce but he dont have kids but he still lives with his wife.

Ive been waiting for almost a yr now and Im now wondering if this is worth it. This article really enlightened me.. I feel in love with a married man. At the time he didn't mention being married and pursued me relentlessly.

After I found out he was married he downplayed it and acted as if they were separated. Then when he went back I realized this was not the case as she was acting like she had authority over him and I didn't understand why he didn't talk back to her. I feel ashamed that I stayed with him long distance and gave her the time to repair their relationship if she wanted.

How pathetic I was for that to stay on standby like that. He has left her since and always tells me that I am the first woman he has ever loved, desperately wants a child with me and a proper marriage not a quick city hall signing due to pressure from his family but I feel insecure and uncomfortable.

He has children with her so she will always be in his life and she also knows that he had the balls to leave her because of me.

She is a pathetic excuse of a girl who does not know how to look after herself, is very entitled, bad with money, stingy with no future. I hate that if we are together we will have to pay for her living because of their kids together. Since we are long distance I cant stand the time they spend together when he doesn't talk to me and although I do not question whether he is faithful i am turning more cynical and bitter every month.

I think sometimes I sound crazy when I talk to him asking why it took so long to get back to me and snapping at him but at the same time i feel like this circumstance makes sense for met to turn into this. I also sense he is capable of little white lies.

I saw this at the start of our relationship and sometimes he says something like But his friend John was actually meeting a female and her housemate happens to be a mexican male. Why not just say he was visiting John's friend who was a female Little things like this make me uncomfortable. Bending the truth to not deal with confrontation or drama.

Am i being unreasonable? I know he loves his wife cos he can't bear to hurt her. But he also professes to be in love with me. He's extremely jealous even of my husband. I know I need to move on but can't seem to find the strength to do so. I have never loved a man this much. I do most of the giving in the relationship. I need strength to move on. Hmm there seems to be a lot of store put on whether he lied about being married. So what if he didn't? It's not better, or more trustworthy.

He is showing you who he is: If he is interested in cheating he should be already divorcing. If he isn't he's a liar. Do you want a liar? Re getting him to pay things for you: Is it ok to rifle through a woman's handbag while she's on the train? Because that's what you're doing. While he's married they're marital assets. If they divorce shes entitled to half adjusted for circumstances. So half of what he spends on you is hers.

Yes you're a thief. No the fact you have an accomplice doesn't make a difference, plenty of thefts have inside help.

Ask yourself would you want to be in his wife's position? I know you feel you're special but she was special enough for him to marry her. And he still cheated. So how special will you be if you take her place?

I know I know you're different, she's a cold bitch. How do you know? Because he told you implicitly by playing victim or martyr, or even explicitly by telling you. He's a man who cheats. He's a man who is currently lying to his wife about his activities while he cheats with you. How reliable do you think his account of his marriage is? How fair is he really being to his wife? And what does that say about him? Do you hit people who are in your way? Do you drive into cars that block you? Do you run people over on the street?

Don't tell me because it's illegal. Is that the only reason? Is that really what you'd do if it wasn't illegal? Now here's a tip: I don't care that he gave you the keys and the address and eggs you on.

He might have a grievance. You have no reason to harm this woman. She's just in your way. And you're ok with knocking her down. Her injuries will be far worse than from a hit and run. Is that the kind of person you want to be? He told me he was married but they are in the middle of divorce. They still live together until divorce is over and have a 17 year daughter. I did not even fancy him but he talked me into it. Kept talking about our future and how he only wants 1 woman does not needs lots.

He video calls every morning. I think to see I am alone in bed and to show me when at home not in bed with wife. Video shows he sleeps on pull out sofa bed in living room as 2 bed flat.

Spent whole of next day together. Can not trust him or wait so decided never to reply or answer his phone calls ever again.

That is if he does phone or txt. Too much of a headache. When I was 16 I dated this guy on and of for three months and then completely stopped talking to him. Now I'm 19 and he is 21 he didn't lie to me he told me right away that he was in a bad marriage that's depressing him, but he can't leave because his wife doesn't have a job and he has an 8 month old daughter.

He tells me how he misses me and I have his heart but I don't know if I believe him if he cared for me as much as he says wouldn't he just leave its not that hard to leave someone you don't love.

I met someone at work and it turned into something more than a friendship. I knew he was married with 2 kids, I was also married but left my husband once I realised I wasn't actually in love with my husband at the time. Exactly like the story, he says they don't sleep together, they don't talk unless it's about the kids.

He tells me his loves me, he constantly tells me he will leave his wife but then exactly like the story doesn't end up leaving due to the kids. He doesn't like me talking about it and it's driving me crazy! I thought I was the only one in this stupid situation so it was nice to read everyone's comments and the story as well. My thoughts are that he isn't going to leave unless I leave him - in hope that he misses me.

But sometimes deep down I know that he just isn't going to leave her. It really hurts and it is so frustrating because I feel like he is living the best life although he tells me it's not because he feels he is constantly walking on egg shells in case he gets busted. I just have no idea what to do!

When he is with me it's amazing, I feel so comfortable and in love but then when he is with her I just feel so jealous and question everything. I really want to be strong enough to leave him but I just can't! I know this guy for more than 20 years we used to work together and had a crush in each other. He is married and I was also married i left the company and we never saw each other again but on and off I thought about him.

All of sudden we star talking agian and getting really envolved with hot text messages. He told me he still married but a few years ago he was having a lot problems with his wife almost walk away.. But got marriage conselour she got very depressed and got aadited at the hospital but they tolerate each other he has a daugther but she is by her own.

Iamges: things to consider when dating a married man

things to consider when dating a married man

I would have missed out on a life-changing relationship if I made his single dad status a deal-breaker before I got to know him. Did he tell you he was married from the beginning or did he lie to you and then have to tell the truth? Meanwhile, if her partner is in his seventies or eighties he may be retired, leaving him spending his retirement alone.

things to consider when dating a married man

Apparently he moved home and now I found out after we shared nights together just cuddling, kissing, and he performed oral sex on me, I found out he is married. Everyday Health Emotional Health. Also once you become a strong, happy, loving person, people will naturally want to be around you, want to be part of your life.

things to consider when dating a married man

Everyone makes mistakes; it's what you do about them that makes you a better person. The electricity between us was something I've never felt before. Here are some other behaviors, beyond those discussed in the Michigan study, that cause people to accuse others of cheating:. It's empowering and they will miss us in the end a things to consider when dating a married man of jewish dating services toronto lot more than we will miss them. However, when I talked to him about the future, he said firmly that he cannot leave his family. Go for W if he's single. I happen to have known several highly moral men who divorced their wives even though they had two or three kids.