Here's What People Really Think About Height And Dating
There I said it! I like listening to music. Sure, sometimes standing on your tiptoes for a goodnight kiss feels silly, but c'mon, if you're horizontal, the physics are all the same. My height isn't a purely aesthetic feature you can comment on candidly, like a coat or a hat. If anything, I find that if a man is 5'9" or 5'10" and likes my height, he's super confident and secure, and that's really attractive. It makes me feel like a zoo animal.
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I'm not sure if it was a psychological or physical thing, but I got over it pretty quickly once I dated, like, one tall girl. It does annoy me when guys lie about their height on dating apps, because you can always find out when they have. I'm 18 years old and my b Banaybanay , Philippines Tall dark never mind. I am just over 5'6" and I never have a problem getting a date.
I remember being teased for being short in middle school, as my girl friends had their puberty growth spurts and I stayed the same from sixth grade until forever. But over time, I noticed that it was hardly a problem in my dating life — in fact, almost all of the guys I dated in my teens and twenties were six feet or taller.
That's not to say that tall men are better, but that my own physical size didn't restrict me to any specific height range within the straight male population. And as I got older, more and more men I dated would comment on it: One even said explicitly, "I feel so manly with you. It's sort of been a firsthand exercise in how a lot of guys associate traits they see as childlike with femininity — they equate my height with an overall smallness, and that then makes them feel "big," playing into a traditionally desirable gender binary and power structure between men and women.
There's nothing I can do about my height to resist these norms, but I can certainly say that I'm not a "small" person, aside from physically, and guys come to see that soon after meeting me. However, some things are near inescapable; I wish I had a penny for every time a guy called me a "firecracker" as a compliment. I always wonder if that's the catchall term for someone petite with half a personality.
As far as dating goes, my height became less and less of an issue as I got older. When I was a teenager — I was 6'4" by the time I turned 16 — I got nowhere with the ladies. At that age, everyone is freaking out about their appearance because they just want to fit in. Having an extreme physical characteristic that's totally out of your control can be pretty crushing when your self-esteem hinges on fitting in.
And there's nothing less attractive than low self-esteem. Another thing that can make it difficult to fit in is having a giant sad guy following you around everywhere , so I don't blame the ladies for passing on that opportunity back then. Even the girl in the arcade at the bowling alley, who, when year-old me worked up the nerve to ask her out on date, answered, "You're too tall. Anyway, everything changed once I got to college.
Everyone just ping-pongs around the universe, building identities all over again. Interactions with people become less superficial and you gravitate toward people who genuinely interest you. If you're tall, with a strong jaw, and you've spent the past few years practicing brooding, you do exceedingly well during this time. Lots of people are still incredibly rude to me and say things about my height all the time. Tourists try to sneak photos with me. Guys try to pick fights with me in bars.
When I was younger I would have internalized that and blamed myself and not seen it for what it actually is — a deep character flaw in those other people. Having an extreme physical characteristic is useful in that way. The way people react to it tells you a lot about them in an instant. Now, I'm engaged to a smart and beautiful woman who tells me that she likes my height.
And since you're probably wondering, she's 5'6". I will say that I used to be super intimidated by tall women. I'm not sure if it was a psychological or physical thing, but I got over it pretty quickly once I dated, like, one tall girl.
It just takes a little adjusting to someone tall, if you're used to dating short people, and vice versa. Hot tip for anyone weirded out by height differences: Just sit for the date and you won't notice how tall or short they are. Then by the end of the date, when you stand up, you'll know them as a person and not as their height. It's honestly a LOT easier to ignore than a bad personality, etc. I mean, in the end, I don't think it really matters.
Being short is nearly as much of an identity as any other characteristic, since it affects so much of your day-to-day life. I can't reach the top shelf at the grocery store, it's hard to find clothes that don't need tailoring, and of course, dating can be an adventure. It's obnoxious to see a dating profile that says something like "guys under 5'10" need not apply.
If you're that judgmental about height, you're probably equally insufferable in some other way. I've dated people both shorter and taller than me, and it's really all the same. Sure, sometimes standing on your tiptoes for a goodnight kiss feels silly, but c'mon, if you're horizontal, the physics are all the same.
As a short guy who's also struggled with weight, it's even tougher. Sometimes you just feel undesirable. Losing weight over the past year has definitely made me more confident, but it's still a daily battle. Though I do have a few friends who are both short and super skinny, who get stuck with the "pocket gay" label, and somehow that seems even worse. Overall, if I had to pick between staying shorter than average and being way taller, I'd stay the same. I've been tall my whole life.
I tend to like it now, but it definitely makes dating a little tougher. I've been more or less single for about two years now, so yes, I have Tinder and a few other similar apps. This site is the web's best repository of the biggest tall men! After all, I'm 6'2" and so only 6'3" or above is tall to me. You'll find shirtless college jocks, frat boys, skinny and lanky guys, NBA basketball players, NFL football stars, college football players, NCAA college basketball players, soccer jocks, track and field and water polo athletes, shirtless swimmers, baseball players, the tallest historic giants, pro wrestlers, college wrestlers, strongmen, powerlifters, soldiers, policemen, shirtless bodybuilder supermen, tall men looming in doorways, aspiring male models, giant boys and boyish giants.
Head shots, shirtless shots, fashion photos, action shots, and lots of Webshots style party photos. Plus there are occasional glimpses of all the big men's girlfriends, coeds, wives and female bar acquaintances in their orbit. They are always dating A-list looking gals as nobody gets the girls like tall men. Aug 13, And if you're 5'9, you don't get to complain about being short. Honestly dude, the number of people who will accept you for being your height far outnumber the people who think you're too short.
I'd kill to be 5' I'm 5'9" and have seen plenty of guys well under that I think are very attractive. Hello, anyone who is shallow and small minded to reject you on something so small pun truly not intended as your height then bugger that go find better! I'm 5'8 and height has never been a problem, nor for any of my friends that are short.
Well except for one that fancied a guy who was 6'5. The logistics involved in the bedroom must have been mind-boggling, since I saw the effort involved simply for a kiss. Aug 13, 2: I'm 6'4", and have dated many people shorter than myself. Shorter men can be just as sexy as taller men -- you just have to meet the right guy who thinks so. Aug 13, 3: I love shorter men. I would think he more likely rejected you cuz you write really, really weird. Which probably indicates a lot of other weirdness in your personality.
Aug 13, 4: Please don't worry about your height. You can't change that. And your English is good enough given it's not your first language.
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I think the bigger issue is how comfortable random men are talking to me about my body. To be honest, I never really explored the dating scene.
As far as dating goes, my height became less and less of an issue as I got older.
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