Pros and Cons of Mixed Race Dating
Ask God to help you find and recognize the man for you…when you are ready. My aunt, however, told me both Aaron and I were welcome over for Christmas so I jumped at the opportunity. I have 6 figures in one of my several investment accounts, gaining interest and dividends at low tax rates on all of them instead of like you paying social security, medicare, and marginal tax rates like a chump. If my daughter ended up marrying this person and had a child of her own, would the marriage be strong with love and mutual respect?
God sent my husband to me and I know that he is who I am supposed to be with and I couldn't be more blessed. What a way to disrespect your entire family. But you have to gain respect to get respect. Most people on here hate black men. June 2, at This is a poorly written article that needs a lot more editing if some kind of properly structured idea is to emerge from it. But If I were a woman there is no way in hell I could live with the knowledge of coming from a ethnicity that is projected to be dissolving because of low birthrates and still chose to be with men of another ethnicity.
So instead of dreaming of a place where we all live free of judgment, I pray for acceptance. I promised myself that no matter what my future children do in life or whatever path they go down be it wrong, dangerous, or unwise, that I will ACCEPT them and I think it is possible to accept the choices other people make without agreeing with them.
They say great pain makes great art. The piece addresses the stages of my complicated relationship, how race held Aaron and I back initially, how it divided us in the end, and the racial divide in all of our daily lives. I am nervous and excited to share this work with the public, but must say it has been therapeutic. At the peak of all the drama, a close friend sent me the sermon below and I have clung tightly to it ever since.
For now, I just keep running my race. In life, people will try to pressure you to become what they want you to be. You simply need to run your race to the best of your abilities and let God bring you to the finish line. The goals He has placed in front of you are too important to let others lead you away from them.
Ashley is a dancer, teacher, and choreographer based in Los Angeles. Ashley teaches ballet, tap, jazz, and hip hop out of the School of Dance and Music located in the South Bay area, California, and also teaches freelance private lessons, workshops, and master classes along the west coast.
She is a company member and choreographer for LA Unbound and has been a principal dancer with Ballet Repertory Theatre. She currently resides in Long Beach, CA and hopes to open her own dance studio in the near future. Thank you for sharing Ashley! I pray that God will continue to shine through you and give you strength through the path that you have chosen! Stick with your own race. That is very very rude. Why should that even matter?
Yeah and your stepping up, she is stepping down. Your kids IQ will be greater than yours, hers will be less. You sound like a drama queen. You carry the pain of african americans on your shoulders. Asha, you have to reconcile with your father.
He may be wrong in principle but his motivations are rooted in protecting you based on his experiences. In a perfect world, everyone is awesome and dependable. Do amazing black men exist that dedicate their lives to a single woman? I have five daughters and sympathize with your father. Being politically correct is irrelevant when the safety or well being of my daughters is on the line. Your father may be wrong in principle but give him a break — his emotional response is a sign of his deep love for you.
If Aaron or someone else is worth it, you will just have to work that much harder to convince your father that the young man is worth your time. He probably should trust your judgement but he has decades of his own experiences to struggle with. Fathers can be idiots.
We all make choices and the father chose to push his child away. Love him from afar and anyone else that shares his beliefs. They also come with higher rates of spousal abuse and infidelity. Your father is right. He should have given you the statistics that back up his personal experience.
I have heard a lot of black guys talk about white women amongst themselves and most of them say the most disgusting things about white girls and white people in general. Also a rasmussen poll asked all races which race was the most racist, every group said blacks are the most racist including blacks. Also your kids will have a lower IQ than children of white white parents. Interracial children on average fall in between white and black average.
There is internal racism amongst blacks regarding how dark or light you are. Look at the the types of societies blacks build, they have never built an advanced civilization on their own.
And as far as discrimination in criminal justice system goes, if you compare convictions with the National Crime Victimization Survey you will see that according to the victims, police are simply going after the criminals. There was a study done with white and black children where they were given a choice to either have a candy bar right now, or to wait a couple days and get two, the blacks overwhelmingly chose the instant gratification of having the candy bar now, where whites chose to wait.
Low IQ and a lack of impulse control is what plagues the black community. IQ is heavily correlated with a countries GDP. If you look at every all black society you will see that low IQ low impulse control people produce the conditions they live in, not white racism. Human beings are attracted to similarity, and there is not much in common between black and white people; the top ten television shows are completely different for blacks and whites just for example.
Ashley, live your life for YOU and no one else. Your purpose is far greater than he can ever comprehend. Hell, even I got his ass beat in that department. Anyway, live your life for you.
Your dad put a condition on his love to control your life and he says blacks are bad for you? As for your ex-boyfriend, he made the decision to run instead of fight for your love. He did you a favor. Ask God to help you find and recognize the man for you…when you are ready. He will prepare you by opening your eyes to see past skin color, open your ears to hear his intentions and your heart to help you defend him against anyone who stand against your union.
God will also stand with you because who the man he sends to you will also be a man of God. What God brings together, let NO man tear apart. Always remember that where your earthly father lacks in love, God picks up the slack and will not forsake you the way your father has. The white race is going instinct and stupid white whores like yourself are responsible.
What is the world going to be like without white people? Have you ever been to an African country? Learn something new every day.
Because he was successful some might forgive however Im telling you no race including Middle Eastern or Asian and even your own will want you because you have it in your mind that you can save RACISM. Tell no one you dated a black guy and you will have a better life.
You are not a whore but white people are the global minority and white women making these decisions is actually a growing issue that adds to this problem. These people expressing racial hate toward you will get worse from our dissolving ethnicity. Your father expected you to carry on our people like all fathers do. You disappointed him in that aspect, for that I am sure. You are the good type of woman that all white men hate to lose from our pool of relationship possibilities. In short and in a very cold light.
White women will be the destructing force of the white ethnicity, its really that simple. But If I were a woman there is no way in hell I could live with the knowledge of coming from a ethnicity that is projected to be dissolving because of low birthrates and still chose to be with men of another ethnicity.
You are a beautiful white woman, most of the white men who see you with any man, let alone a non-white one will hate who ever you are with. Every black man with a white woman will soon be in great danger in the coming future. I am not making threats I am making a prediction.
You must be genius. No offense but uh the last time I checked, monkeys have white skin. You should look at this map you are very uneducated, are you a product of Yankee incest? I was gang raped by black men when I was in my late teens. Our entire family has fled South Africa because we are white and were being persecuted by the blacks. She says he is a nice guy yet our once to ethical, honest daughter is suddenly lying and deceiving everyone to ensure she can shack up with this boy.
I have told her exactly what your father told you that there is no place for her in my life while she is in this relationship. Here I struggle feeling like the worst person in the world yet my daughter carries on not seeing how selfish her actions are. I have friends from all ethnic groups. You wrote about how fantastic your Dad was, yet you condemn him when he reacts so strongly to your interracial relationship, not for a second giving him the priveledge of understanding why he feels the way he does but rather labelling him a racist.
You, like my daughter are very selfish and solely responsible for the divide in your respective families. White people have the highest school shooting and child molesting charges in America. Does that mean you never date a white guy or have a white baby sitter? Her father tore apart the family not her. It is amazing the level of confirmation bias going on with minorities, you are practically ensuring your own destruction.
Of course white people do you idiot. Their is 6 times more whites than blacks. Take black crimes times 6 to get the real numbers if it were equal. Times 2 is all it needs for blacks to outnumber whites in crimes. Actually you are the selfish one.
But you know what? Not everyoe is the same. Yes you are a racist. I have friends who have been raped and assaulted. All by white guys. Further white men systematically raped my ancestors and the ancestors of those who look like me on a regular basis without blinking and then came up with a dozen stereotypes to justify it. By your logic I should then dump my white boyfriend…history shows white Europeans and their descendants are hyper violent. Everywhere colonialism has been there has been rape, theft, mutilation, apartheid etc.
Almost every single mass shooting in America has been done by white men. Historically Blacks, Indians, and others have more reason to fear whites than the opposite.
However, this has nothing to do with your daughter dating a black man. You have decided that you believe all black men are vicious, and all black men are exactly the same. That is racist, that is bigotry. There is no way around it in the slightest. You talk about this woman not giving her dad enough thought for why he feels this way. You are a racist. There are evil people everywhere. I only judge people hearts and actions. She has a right to experience life for herself.
Why judge an individual based on the senseless acts of others against you? Sorry to break it to you but um…. All of you keep refering to black people as African American or African and telling them to go back to Africa. Bachelors and Masters Degree in what? Having a degree in underwater basket weaving does not make you intimidating. You have a prius? Congratulations you use objects as status symbols, so your sense of self worth is tied in with Status. I can see why you are obeying your media masters into self depreciation.
No one said you would get divorced, Mike said you were much more likely to get divorced which is a statistical fact. By the way, here is the definition of idiot for you, lest your were putting on your makeup when you scribbled it. An idiot, dolt, dullard or archaically mome is an intellectually disabled person, or someone who acts in a self-defeating or significantly counterproductive way. Now, who is acting in a self-defeating way?
Who is commenting on your families life which is on public display? Or You, who although feels the plight of the poor lowly black, but who still dumped him, and drug your family through the mud for attention. Pretty sure its you. Your story is great. Focus on making yourself a better person! There is a ton of hate from ignorant, less than adequate men it seems. Most are cowards, sad little men and women who do nothing more than foment hate. I kinda feel sorry for em… as should you.
Keep doing you and I hope it works out! I can see that that my dad is really racist. That he is even insulting me telling me i am spiritually blind? Telling me all these stuff because i am dating black. I love my dad and i love my man as well. I would like to have your advice or prolly you could share your experiences wth me. The reason for the skewed abuse rates are because a lot of abuse goes in reported. Due to the woman not wanted her spouse to lose his good job or wanting their kids father labeled an abuser.
Your father was right. What you were doing was immoral, trashy and disgusting. You should be ashamed of yourself. I would have disowned you as well for turning on your family and race. I have no problem with black people even though sometimes they do act out in public, but I would never allow my daughter to date a black guy. Also white people act out in public all the time. As do Indians, Asians, Middle Eastern persons of varied ancestry.
You only notice because it confirms biases you already have. Do yourself a favor and stop pretending. Regardless who they choose to have relations with. It sickens me to no end, every time I hear of a family turning on one of their own because they are Gay or because of a mix raced relationship or an out of wedlock birth or an abortion or apostasy from the religion you were brought up in. If something like an interracial relationship was enough for her father to disown her, then he never loved her to begin with.
If you truly love your famiky, you will stick by them no matter what. And as far as race is concerned, the only race I represent is the human race. Learn to fucking spell before you get on your high horse and tell other people how to live.
Major NYC Production co. This documentary series focuses on breaking out of hatred. Stop blaming Jews for everything. These are the same individuals that will refuse to acknowledge the sins of their forefathers or the fact that their undercover racist tendencies are further fueling the mentality that is keeping a people from becoming all they can be. Your story breaks my heart. I grew up as the black kid in a privileged and very white community. I like people who are like me.
Musical interests, favorite restaurants, forms of entertainment — these are primary concerns. Skin color is so secondary. I just wanted to remind you of what the wildcards did. It only takes one person to change the mentality of a nation. I would hope you choose to continue fighting the good fight. I do my small part everyday. She then decided she would only date white guys her own race , and began believing dumb stereotypes she once denied.
Her online dating profile now includes everyone. Amazing what we can do. The sexual and reproductive arenas have their own rules. Racism is not intrinsically evil; intolerant liberals have brainwashed many whites into believing this. Your father feels that the racial diversity of human kind needs to be protected and that races should not mix sexually.
This is a perfectly valid belief to have. You are Caucasian, and you should marry a Caucasian and raise Caucasian children. That is my belief as well. I can understand his pain. These things will never change. The date is irrelevant. Stick to tradition and date your own race. Stop being a rebel and a liberal narcissist. I was not dating this person because he was black. I was dating him because he was him. Ashley,you are a very pretty woman and should be able to get a white man to date.
Interracial relationships bring a whole new set of problems which when you consider how life and non interracial relationships can be hard as they are,why add to those. You are the product of a white mother and white father and by going with and having children with a black man you will end the lineage that made you look like you. Why would you want to have children that bear no resemblance to you? I hope you seriously consider this,Ashley,because once you cross that line there is no going back.
Both of my mixed Children look just like their mother. And as far as problems, my wife has had 0 and none of the other white women I know that have back husbands. I wonder why you and other think having children is about having them look like you? Think people on here must have died or got old or something specially with the racist comments.
Listen I am a black man n I dont care what any white person or black person says about me dating a white woman. For me I prefer a beautiful white woman. The only reason why white men get so angry is because yes they are afraid. They are afraid that it will kock off a trend and tgere will perhaps be no white beatiful women left for white men. Truth is thats just stupid thinking white men dont want to go up against black men interms of what white women perhaps really want nor do they want black men in their family to make them feel awkward.
Anyway all this racist bullshit is about who is better than who n carrying on a legacy n its stupid thinking in todays society. Times are changing amd the gate keepers think they can suppress blacks but we are wising up to how the system works n what things are put in place to keeps us black men down.
Keep hating lol the more you do wont make any difference. You are no different than your father. Only difference is, his age and experience has probably shown him things through the years that he would like to have his daughter love of his life avoid.
Trust me I get it, I am facing the same challenge with my daughter today. Whites are an endangered species dwindling fast. I say this as a non white. If Donald does not build that wall soon whites will be a minority in America by I am beyond disgusted with these irrational comments on here.
First of all Ashley, your story beautiful and heartbreaking. Your father who is supposed to love you no matter what, protect you no matter what, and be there for you no matter has chosen to basically make you be what he wants you to be rather than yourself. As a father of 4 girls myself I could never ever disown my girls for any reason, much less something so small as interracial dating. I wish you the best of luck in the future. Yes if u lump all minorities in with one another then number is much closer but that not fair nor relevant.
Black guys and white guys treat women badly. White guys by far are the leaders in domestic violence. Come on guys, either just come out as racist or stop thinking like one. I am proud to say I am black man and have been married to my wife whose white for 5 years. Been together for 7 years. We r 29 and Both have degrees, own our own home and have 4 beautiful daughters. I was wrong about the population. Per every ppl in the us 77 are white while 13 are black.. Mighty interesting that the majority of the negative comments towards black men are coming from men who I assume are not black.
A LOT of insecurity here….. As a black male, it is heart breaking to hear your story. It is even more heartbreaking to read the comments.
The only real fact here is that they base who I am by the color of my skin rather than what I have done. Why is it so hard to judge a person on their actions, not their skin tone?
Why does skin color matter so much to people? I hope for a day when I can look to a white friend and not wonder if they are a closet racist. The truth is racsim may die out at least practically one day. But the truth is we are many generations away from that point. Sad that this is what people will realistically think of my family and me. If I am right, do me a favour and comment when you have a bit more life experience. I expect my own flesh and blood to honour my feelings because ultimately surely family is more important than a juvenile fling?
That is just the basics of what I am. But It does not make my personality nor does it make my characteristsics. I do not have to live 45 years to gain experience in life. Life IS the experience! And coming on here for you to judge a whole race off what a stupid group of men did to you in another continent means you are living in fear.
That fear will consume you. There are bad apples in every race. It does not make it right to blame one race for what every race can or will do. If it had been white men who did such horrid things to you, what would you have felt against your daughter dating a Caucasian man in the states? Would you stil say the same thing? Or would you forgive?
And I would never follow advice from anybody who told me I could not date the man I love. Even if it was my own flesh and blood. I do not understand your pain, you are correct in that. But I also do not understand why a whole group has to be blamed for what happened all the way in South Africa.
I maybe young, but I am also very observant in my surrounding ans research. Dating a black guy made you a whore. I read your very long many paragraphed attempt to rationalize your behavior. It indicates you are dysfunctional and a drama queen. Focus on yourself, not someone else.
Millions of people are also single mothers, heroin addicts, etc. You and this girl keep saying parents are supposed to love unconditionally, but how about children are supposed honor and obey their mother and father? Oh and the cop out that she is part Hispanic shows how badly you misinterpret the dynamics of the situation. If it were just about difference in appearance the father would have been mad about dating a blonde haired guy or short guys, chubby guys, etc.
This added comment you made is irrelevent. Where did you see me say that exactly? But you have to gain respect to get respect. A person is a person. There is no superior race and there never will be. God made everyone equal. Who she finds attractive is her own personal opinion. You prefer same race and she prefers mixing it up. It really is amusing though to hear a 19 year old spew platitudes and act like she has a firm grasp on the universe.
Where is your proof of this? There is plenty of evidence, empirical and statistical, that this is NOT the case. All that supports your statement is commercial propaganda, and anecdotes. All ethnic groups, not racial groups, vary by race, geography, history, and culture. The best example is concerning I. Q tests, which are flawed for race and class reasons. Historically poverty has been concentrated in minority groups, specifically blacks. This affected blacks very strongly in the last years idea to the racism of how black soldiers were discharged post WWII as compared to formerlly minority groups such as Irish, Jews, and Italian which affected who could use the G.
All of this and more means that as a group blacks have historically been in a particular economic brackett. Prior to desegregation however things were not so bad except the racism , however segregation, meant the middle and upper class blacks could move elsewhere thus taking their dollar with them increasing deteriorating schools due to a lack of tax base. The results of this is a large class difference between blacks and Asians who are at the top followed by whites.
That class difference which then meets cultural differences that arise out of having to survive a racist society and poverty is not accounted for by I. Then even amongst black upper class folks their dollar is less than whites due to whites reaping years of inheritance. Further the class culture difference means that certain questions on the I. That affects everything from how test makers write questions to what questions they write.
Q tests or SAT scores are thought to be indicative of pure intelligence and capacity to learn, but it is generally accepted that these are flawed interpretations of these tests. However our view of education is that arising out of the industrial period, so we believe we can quantify everything…ultimately this just hurts our understanding of learning in general, and prevents us from truly examining and discussing the historical, political, and economic impacts upon various ethnic groups.
These tests do measure a knowledge base and a skill base, however without interpreting these things through what students bring into the classroom and the world they come from they are ultimately pointless. There are many studies that are VERY well done and air tight, but do not assume that studies on subjects surrounding humanity are air tight and are caused by the nature of humanity alone.
Studies show far more whites are on disability. But what does that mean? Well we can go a number of directions, social, medical, etc. Studies are complex and should be individually read, their authors questioned, and their funding sources questioned.
Any good scientist would tell you that. He so happened to be black. Though some are more successful across more levels for one reason or another. Because those people view all black people as being the same. That behavior being dating a friend, a coworker, someone with the same interests as her, someone who is devoted to helping the community, and who was VERY interested in meeting her family.
Further most of you never even brought up the possibility that racists like you put pressure on there relationships creating tension and stress that affects relationships. Scientists know that averages surrounding people vary, have potentially numerous causes,, and are not absolutes. This man and others who have posted are simply racists who think every single black man is the same person.
A whore is someone who takes sex for money. A whore, if she plays her cards right, is a very wealthy woman for taking advantage of desperate or curious men and women. A whore in short is not defined by who she sleeps with. Plenty of people have had sex with black men…and you are so threatened by black men having consensual sex with a white woman that she must be a whore. Why are you so sexually obsessed with black men? But if your biggest insult is that women involved with black men are whores then I doubt you have anything substantial to say…I also doubt you have a very basic vocabulary.
Regarding your comments on IQ: G has been mathematically isolated. IQ tests use geometric problems to narrowly focus on G at the expense of culturally-linked knowledge. How can that be if the tests were designed for middle class whites???
But if you get sexual gratification out of thinking about your family members, good for you. By extension, good luck finding any woman to sleep with your racist, sexist, and incestuous ass. Any woman that marries or has married you must be a masochistic and racist idiot. My condolences for your daughters, wives, and sisters because you honestly believe that loving them consists of controlling their lives and disowning them if they do not follow your orders.
When your descendants become ugly inbred fools, you have no one to blame but yourself. Just look at me. I am not and will never be like you, and I am glad for it. And before you say it is because I am stupid, I have an intelligence that is above the average iq. Which is apparently out of love for them? You might think that by disowning your family, you are abandoning them, but ultimately they chose a black person over you. Meaning that person is valued over their own unloving, piece of crap father who put himself on an effing pedestal.
I hope that it eats away at you and destroys your obviously inflated ego. Wow you posted this on the internet with a photo of your father? What a way to disrespect your entire family. Your dad was trying to help you and all you can do is try to ruin him. You are an absolutely horrible person. How do you not know the statistics concerning blacks? Did you think your father would want you to be exposed to the worst culture on earth? Worst culture on earth? Believe it or not there are many more good black men than bad.
Lol oh yeah and we are also somehow less than you.. Because of the natural melanin we were born with?? We are literally the samething. Typical black male response. Also, 10 out of 10 Greyhounds and bulldogs are born dogs. Which one do you want running in a race? You see your ridiculous concept of thinking just because you were born white that you somehow are better than me is further evidence of your insecurities. My culture is so terrible remember.. This article and thread is about her dad having a problem with dating blacks because of this.
The problem is it usually ends up being a burden to the rest of society. They are usually the type who are single moms that collect entitlements and use social services. Considering you and your wife choose to produce children as far away from who you and your family are as possible it actually sounds like you and her deep down hate yourselves. Are there worthless white people? Listening to your description though of a white woman who first hooked up with a complete loser and then a black guy it sounds like you have some ground chuck or utility sirloin on your hands.
How much money you make has nothing to do with what kind of person you are. I have 6 figures in one of my several investment accounts, gaining interest and dividends at low tax rates on all of them instead of like you paying social security, medicare, and marginal tax rates like a chump. Why do you brag about things you are supposed to do? Men are supposed to buy a home, make a living, and take care of stepchildren.
You act like you deserve a trophy. Look you do sound like a stand up guy. It really is amazing how some people think making a statement transforms it into fact. Maybe in your circle of friends that statement is correct? Yet even ignoring that, scientifically speaking humans mate and reproduce to expand and multiply their genetics, not dilute or drop a bomb on them.
Honestly, what woman in her right mind would want to be owned by a white man who compares dogs to humans. Maybe you are losing women because you are treating them like your servants like we owe something to you.
After all, what will men like you do when fundamentalist, sexist religions die out? Those poor brainwashed women are the only girls who will have you, and they are already in the minority. You can call women whores, but you are just pushing them even further away from you. I assure you that being called a whore by some sexist man is nothing new to us.
Personally, from my experience this is odd.. This is America, you should have the right to date, marry, intercourse, or get involved with whoever you want to get involved with regardless of what parents, friends, or society says or think. I would rather have my daughter date an educated non-white rather than an uneducated low class white. Obviously, the dad is low class and uneducated…. Must be a truck driver, construction worker, or ditch digger.
Learn how to be independent and not worry what society says or thinks. If you worry so much about what your family or friends think, then you are a slave!! I will still love my daughter regardless of who she dates or gets involved with. Whatever makes her happy is fine with me! Humans have been mixing for thousands of years.
Because White Europeans looked at the world through a different set of lens compared to every other race. And tended to have a more isolated paradigm observation say compared to a Mixed race. Anyways I think the real issue we need to address is the class issue.
If a black man is educated and can be a provider, there should be no objection to him dating a white woman. I think we need to focus on the issue of low class poor whites and their self entitlement complex…. I would never want to date or get involved with a low class poor white.
Since when do parents have to approve of whatever their child does? The father strongly disagrees with it and has no interest in supporting or rewarding her choice. Calling families hesitant, uneducated, and low class for disapproving of interracial dating. Have you seen the girls who engage in it?
As disgusting as I find it I usually end up feeling sorry for the black guy because the white girl is so worthless. I am not nieve enough to think the racial wars over the years have been one sided. In my humble time on this planet I have my OWN experiences to draw from- when you can say the same then you bother to have an opinion. You call me racist but the fact you are in this interracial relationship indicates to me you are racist against your own people. I pray you find your way. Do you read the type of squader that you type?
Or do you actually think this way? Your dad is right, culturally and physically and mentally, there are measurable differences and between races. Crime, corruption, economic growth and activity, IQ, scientific output per capita, and so on, all get affected negatively by black demographics. We have so many examples of this on every level, from neighbourhoods to towns to cities to countries. Same thing every time. I think we should treat people as individuals, a black guy completely removed from black culture can achieve just as well as any other person in every field, but African communities destroy societal infrastructure that buckles under their weight with their culture of crime and underachieving and professional victim hood.
Detroit, Philadelphia, Atlanta, Chicago. From an anthropological stand point take Greece, used to be blonde hair blue eyes as the norm. Mixed their race with Africans, blonde hair blue eyes changed to Olive skin-dark hair-brown eyes and the innovative place that was a hive of new ideas and discovery turned into a failed state. Africans are really that different from us. I am from rural AZ and men like him are very common at the copper mines, construction sites, etc.
Many of the small towns in AZ are predominantly white or Mexican, and there are very few African Americans. There were lots of guys like your dad on my football team and wrestling team.
They hated African Americans. As for me, I am Native American. You learned a lot about racism in this experience. Your black boyfriend most likely was rejecting much darker black women to be with you. Colorism is common among minority men who reject their own kind to be with white women.
For example, Tiger Woods has an absolute preference for blonde white women with blue eyes most of the time. Occasionally, he dates white brunettes. Meanwhile, he rejects much darker black women who look like the women from the Supremes from the s or Janet Jackson.
It seems that many white women who date black men are unaware of the colorism that is happening. The black men are often rejecting their own kind because they believe white women are prettier than black women. It becomes reverse racism — colorism where minorities discriminate against each other. This pattern is not unique to African Americans. It is very common in Mexico and a basis for the Colonial Spanish Casta based on skin color — the lighter the skin the higher up the caste.
So the racism did not just involve your dad. Your ex was also a willing participant in my opinion. English isn't my native language. This is the most racist question i have ever read here. If your daughter wants to date a white person that is her decision, not yours. The guy looks good.
I don't see what your problem is. And you are the most racist asshole I have ever heard. It quite relies upon on the mummy and dad, i like to think of that it is not correct yet regrettably some all of us is basically stupid.
I'm someone's daughter and dealt with my mother disapproving who and who I could not assosiate with. I think you should leave it alone and TRY to get to know him. By you having a negative outlook and perception about their relationship, you're only making it worst because your pushing her towards him more. Let her grow up and learn.
Sometimes one must go through their own test to realize mom and dad were right. It is now We are long past judging people by the color of their skin, and it is no longer acceptable to disapprove of a relationship simply because they people are of different racial backgrounds. Your ignorance is showing and it's not a good look. Unfortunately you cannot pick who she dates, you just have to go along with it. More times than not if you try to keep them apart you just push them together more so just go with it.
She is just dating , no wedding bells yet so keep out of it , it might not last. And you should not judge a person on colour. It doesnt matter hes white or he likes "white" people stuff its not a big deal he is who he is all that matters is how he treats her there are black people who like white stuff white people who like black stuff its all about there personal personallity not looks race gender whatever. A non racist mind. Ericka i know this is you by the point you pointed it out.
P can you please stop hating on me and your daughter please we are crazy in love with 1 of a another. P her daughter is my lover. Related Questions My daughter is dating a white guy?!? Why are so many white parents against their daughters dating black guys? Would white parents approve their daughter dating an East Indian-American guy?
Iamges: my daughter is dating a white guy
And yet here he was, proposing ridiculous conditions in order for us to even be in the same room together. We were the example and led the way. I was raised in a middle class, very diverse town where my friends where of all races, not just black.
If you worry so much about what your family or friends think, then you are a slave!! But again, there's nothing to worry about. I just wanted her to make an informed decision.
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